WITH everyone gushing about how 'perfect' their partner is, any worries about your own relationship could be amplified by Valentine's Day. Worryingly, cheating dating site Ashley Madison says February is one of its strongest -up months - as the romantic day fails to live up to people's expectations.
So do you have an inkling your partner is cheating on you this Valentine's Day? Fabulous spoke to psychotherapist and cheating expert Lucy Beresford, Ashley Madison's resident specialist, to identify the tell-tale s someone is having an affair. No-one really needs two phones anymore.
Angling their phone screen away from you when a message comes in, taking their phone with them into the bathroom or lowering their voice when they are on a call are also red flags.
Taking a healthy interest in exercise shows you want to stay fit for your partner and take the physical side of your relationship seriously. But if you've noticed your partner has become obsessed with their appearance or fitness levels, without a boost in affection or attention to you, it could be that their focus is on someone new. Either they are trying to impress someone, in the hopes of starting an affair, or something is already happening.
Because let's be honest, MI5 aren't bothered about your Pinterest history, funny cat videos or Google searches for your next holiday. If they have any sense, they'll have either set their browsing history to 'private' or 'clear' their history while making their plans to stray.
So if they've been using their computer a lot, but their browsing history shows as empty, you need to be concerned.
Unfortunately, romantic ruts are common, so if you start to notice big changes in the bedroom, this could be a there are now three of you in the relationship. In a fresh relationship, people use every opportunity to squeeze that person, their thoughts and ideas into conversations. It could be someone your partner knows through work, a friend they've developed feelings for or someone they met at the gym although more likely the supermarket or coffee runs during lockdown! Everyone has a smell, meaning your nose may be able to detect your partner's affair before your brain can make sense of it.
It could because the other woman's scent is lingering on their skin, but a whiff of soap is another tell-tale .
After a day outside the house, our clothes and bodies acquire our familiar musky smell, with perhaps an overtone of coffee or a general pong of the commute if your partner can't work from home at the moment. But after sex with a lover, many attempt to wash off their smell, so you're right to be suspicious if they come home smelling like shower gel, rather than the daily sweat.
If you eventually decide to confront your partner, you can expect a true cheat to become very defensive. They could accuse you of jealousy or of making stuff up.
They might even accuse you of being the one having the affair. This defensive behaviour is understandable — no-one likes to be caught out — but it also needs to be challenged. But if you notice your partner is liking every single photo or excessively private messaging this person, then you need to have a conversation about over-stepping the boundaries. You should really come to an agreement about what's acceptable and what's considered micro-cheating.
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